第19章 时间是爱的养料

Express Your Love， Don't Buy It

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大多数时候，被我们忽略的许多生活小事，其实比我们自认为意义重大的事要重要得多。这一观点在肯尼·罗杰斯的歌曲《为我买朵玫瑰花》中表现得淋漓尽致。歌中他坚信一个事实，表达爱意在男女关系的发展中起着重要作用，然而很多人对此却不以为然，认为爱可以通过金钱和财富来表达。

肯尼·罗杰斯在歌中叙述了这样一个故事：有一位妻子，她有一个深爱着她的丈夫，但她却始终不满意丈夫的示爱方式。在丈夫看来，让妻子拥有全部财富，过上安逸的生活就是最好的示爱方式。因此他夜以继日地工作，根本没有时间陪妻子。妻子抱怨说，这并不是她想要的，她只希望丈夫能多花点时间陪她、关心她、向她倾诉爱意。这就是她生活中的全部渴望，很平凡却细腻，与那些俗丽的物质毫无关系。

“买朵玫瑰花送给我，工作时打个电话给我，

为我打开一扇门，你会因此受伤吗？

用脉脉含情的眼神表达你对我的爱，

这些微不足道的事情却是我生活中最渴求的。”

对她来说，这些能给她带来最大的快乐和幸福。虽然丈夫很爱她，但他表达爱意的方式让两个人渐行渐远，而随着时间的推移，这一距离还将不断增加。

这首歌体现了我们现在的生活方式，说出了我们的心声：让一个人幸福需要付出诸多代价。生活的改善往往源于简单朴素的欢愉，而绝非复杂的奢华之物。

《为我买朵玫瑰花》的主旨就是，我们身边的爱人需要我们以更加真诚的方式向他们表达爱意，而这些方式恰恰源于生活中的许多小事。多抽时间陪他们比为他们花钱更能表达我们的爱意。我们应当学会用语言和行动来表达自己的感情，而不要让爱的表达流于物质。

大声说出你的爱吧。

Many times， the small things in life， which we often ignore， are more important than the ones that we consider far more valuable.This theme is highlighted in Kenny Rogers'song "Buy Me a Rose". In his song， he insists on the fact that the expression of love plays a significant role in a relationship.However， many people seem to ignore this fact and assume that love can be expressed through wealth and riches.

In his song， Kenny Rogers narrates the story of a wife whose husband loves her very much.However， she thinks that the way her husband shows her his love is not appropriate.According to her husband， the best way of showing his love to his wife is by providing her with all the wealth and comforts of life.Consequently， he works hard day and night and is thus not able to devote any of his time to her.His wife， however， argues that this is not what she wants.All she wants for him is to show her more affection by giving her more of his time， caring for her and by expressing his feelings for her.These are the things that she yearns for in her life and not the big， flashy things that he has given her.

Buy me a rose， call me from work，

Open a door for me， what would it hurt？

Show me you love me by the look in your eyes，

These are the little things I need the most in my life.

To her， these are all the things that can bring her maximum joy and happiness.Although her husband loves her very much， his way of showing his love for her is creating distances between the two.And as time passes by， the distance keeps increasing.

This song expresses how we lead our lives in today's world and how we think that it takes a lot to make a person happy.It is always the simple pleasures of life which make a difference.It is never the big and flashy things.

The main idea of "Buy Me a Rose" is that people who are closer to us deserve more sincere expressions of our love， which may be found in smaller things in life.Spending time with them rather than spending money on them is a better way of expressing our love.We should learn to express our feelings than to show our love through material goods.

Express your love.