第43章 孤独 Loneliness
佚名/Anonymous
A man is known by the company he keeps they say. If it is so, then everyone is bound to have their baggage of loneliness with them as companions. Loneliness is not something that doesn't exist at all with any human being on earth. Every human being feels lonely in his life at some point or other. It's but natural to have such feelings, because that's what makes us all human and that is why we are as we are now.
If we shed some light on why we feel aloof or lonely at times, we would be very much astonished or even probably surprised by the results. We ourselves are responsible for our self-defined gloominess. This is because at times we really feel that we are uncared for or feel someone doesn't understand us.
Sometimes we over analyze real life situations and have this growing sense of self pity inside us. This feeling always gives us thoughts which picturize us always receiving the wrong end of the stick in life. The truth might not always be true if we touch our heart and see. It's just that our expectations in life and from people around us or circumstances that we are facing, have got the better of us. Expectation is the silent killer which murders millions of mushy and time tested relationships. If there would have been no expectations from anyone, the world would have been a much better place to be. If there would have been no expectations, not many people would have had an aching heart and a life long grouse against there would have been better halves. If it wouldn't have been for unreasonable expectations not many couples would have divorced each other.
How to come out of expectations then? Good question. The answer is when you give something, don't expect anything in return. When our mother gave birth to us, she never expected that we will give birth to her. She has just fulfilled her desire to raise a family and live for them. In the same way, let our actions make us live for ourself and let not expectation screw up the major portion of your lives. Let us have the freedom and will power to express our love, affection and longingness for people whenever we feel. Let us not restrict our freedom of expression just because he or she is not responding the way we want them to.
Well all in all a little bit of loneliness is good for a self-analysis to keep a check over your actions. Introspection always makes you communicate with the innerself. But too much of introspection can make you scale the altitude of self pity. So show restrain at the right time.
人们说，一个人总会被他周边的人所了解，若果真如此，每个人都一定会有与孤独为伴之时。每个人都会有孤独感，在一生中的某个时刻备感孤独。有这样的感觉很自然，正是这种感觉使我们称其为人，并塑造了现在的我们。
若我们洞悉孤独感产生的原因，其结果会出乎我们的意料，甚至会令我们吃惊。沮丧是我们自己造成的，有时我们的确有不被关心、不被理解的失落感。
我们分析情况有时会夸大事实，不免产生自怜之感。这种感觉常会使我们产生一种错觉。扪心自问，真相并非总是真实。它们仅仅是我们对周围的人和环境的一种理想的期待。期待是沉默的杀手，它使无数模糊的概念和人与人之间的关系历经时间的考验。倘若任何人都没有期待，世界将会更加美好。没有期待，就不会有那么多心痛之人，也就不会有一生之久的怨艾。如果没有那些不合理的期待，就不会有那么多的夫妻离异。
那么，如何摆脱期待呢？这是一个很好的问题。其答案是，当你给予别人某物时，不要期待得到回报。当母亲给予我们生命的时候，从未指望过我们也给她生命，她只是实现了拥有一个家庭并为家人而活的愿望。同样，不要让你生命中的大部分被期望所占据，让我们为自己而活。把我们的爱、感动与渴望尽量自由地表达出来。在没能得到我们所期待的回应时，也不要限制自己去自由地表达感情。
总之，略微的孤独感对自省是有益的。自省有助于你与心灵的交流。但过度自省，则会令我们有遗憾的感觉。所以，还是适度为好。
每个人都会有孤独感，在一生中的某个时刻备感孤独。有这样的感觉很自然，正是这种感觉使我们称其为人，并塑造了现在的我们。
1.Every human being__________lonely in his life at some point or__________. It's but natural to have such feelings,__________that's what makes us all human__________that is why we are as we are now.
2.We ourselves are responsible__________our self-defined gloominess. This__________because at times we really feel that__________are uncared for or__________someone doesn't understand us.
3.She has__________fulfilled her desire to raise a family and live for them. In the__________way, let our actions make__________live for ourself and let not expectation screw up the__________portion of your lives.
1.期待是沉默的杀手，它使无数模糊的概念和人与人之间的关系历经时间的考验。
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2.没有期待，就不会有那么多心痛之人，也就不会有一生之久的怨艾。
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3.当你给予别人某物时，不要期待得到回报。
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1.If it is so, then everyone is bound to have their baggage of loneliness...
be bound to：必然；不得不；束缚于；必须
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2.Expectation is the silent killer which murders millions of mushy ...
millions of：成百万的；许许多多的
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